Blended orgasms are having a moment online right now, and with good reason! They offer people with vulvas a different type of pleasure. But what exactly are they? And what does it take to create one? With the help of Certified Sex Coach & Clinical Sexologist Amari Leigh, we’re breaking down the ins and outs (no pun intended) of blended orgasms, so you can attempt one yourself.
What is a blended orgasm?
Imagine the high of climax, whatever that looks like for you, doubled. That’s essentially what a blended orgasm feels like. It’s a type of orgasm that occurs due to stimulation of two different erogenous zones. Most often, when discussing the blended orgasm, people think of achieving one through internal (vagina/g-spot) and external stimulation (clitoris) of a vulva. But it can also include other combinations of pleasure zones, such as by bringing the nipples, anus, or even kissing into the mix.
This type of orgasm is particularly intense as it can heighten, intensify, and lengthen the sensation felt during sexual release. Why? Well, there are over 40 types of orgasm and each type offers a different sensation. Often, clitoral orgasms are more concentrated to the skin’s surface whereas g-spot climax offers a more full-bodied sensation that can include shaking and pulsating of the vaginal walls.
When combining the two, you get both the tingling sensation of a clitoral climax with the deeper body high of a g-spot orgasm, which can create an exquisite release for people with vulvas.
How to have a blended orgasm
Curious about how you can achieve a blended orgasm? Here are a few things to try.
- Use Dual Stimulation
Consider which types of orgasm you’d like to blend. Then, stimulate those two erogenous zones at the same time. If you’re going for the classic g-spot/clitoris combo, you can use toys, fingers, or a partner to stimulate internally and externally.
Leigh, who provides sex education to clients so they can find deeper pleasure and more confidence in their sex lives, explains, “This might mean using a vibrator on the clitoris during penetration or trying a sex position that maintains contact with the clitoris.”
- Rock, Don’t Thrust
One expert trick to try? Rocking rather than thrusting. This can create and maintain an ongoing contact and pressure with the front vaginal wall and the clit.
- Try Toys
Fish something out of your toy chest for this one. Toys with dual-stimulation mechanisms make it easy to reach multiple areas at the same time.
- Pioneer, Don’t Perform
Slow down and explore. Build up can increase your chances of blended orgasm. After all, the journey is half the reward when it comes to achieving one. Play with positions, angles, and pressure to find what feels good for you.
“Let go of the goal of having a specific type of orgasm,” Leigh says. “When pressure is removed, it becomes easier to notice and enjoy the full range of sensations that come up.”
Having a blended orgasm with a partner
When going for a blended orgasm with a partner, there are few things to keep in mind that can help make the experience more fun and make you feel less anxious.
- Experiment Without Expectations
Expectations can be a real mood killer when it comes to pleasure as they can put performance stress on you and the experience. Instead, try going into it with an attitude of curiosity. This can make it easier to access playfulness and creativity.
- Communication is Key
Use direct, non-judgmental language to share what’s working and what’s not with your partner. You can throw in some flirty affirmations into the mix when something is doing it for you. This not only makes the experience pleasurable on your end as your partner has a better read on how you feel and can adjust accordingly, but it makes it hotter for both of you. Strong communication skills are sexy!
- Let Go of Results
If climax doesn’t happen, that’s ok. What matters is that you’re exploring your body and figuring out what does and doesn’t work for you (and your partner). Trying new things can lead to greater intimacy and trust with yourself and your sexual partner.
- Lean into Play
“Playful energy helps shift attention away from pressure and performance,” Leigh shares. “Sex can be a space of curiosity and joy, not just climax.”
Removing expectations
As with any pleasurable sexual experience, taking the pressure off is essential to actually enjoying the sensations in your body. So, if blended orgasm feels out of reach for you, don’t sweat it. There are plenty of experiences to try as you figure out what you like and who you are as a sexual person.
“There are over 40 different types of orgasms,” Leigh notes, citing nipple, anal, cervical, and mental as examples. “The possibilities are incredibly diverse, and what feels good or meaningful is deeply personal. A blended orgasm is just one of many potential experiences, and for some people, it might not be the goal at all.”
Leigh mentions that orgasms can come in many different shapes and sizes. Taking the focus off of genitals and exploring new and different ways of having intimacy can bring about climax too. You can experiment with everything from external stimulation to fantasy, kink, and breathwork.
“By expanding the conversation around orgasms, including the existence of blended orgasms, we give people permission to explore, to be curious and to experience pleasure in their own unique way,” Leigh says. “There is no ‘right’ kind of orgasm, just the kind that feels good and fulfilling for you.”
